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We don’t have to take sides

We don’t have to take sides

Our country may seem divided over the events of and following Charlottesville, but we don’t have to take sides.

Our long weekend ft. Ursa Major, Golabki and Japanese Beetles.

Our long weekend ft. Ursa Major, Golabki and Japanese Beetles.

During a long weekend in northern Michigan,we experienced the Ursula Major, fantastic Polish fare and some Japanese beetles. Not necessarily in that order.

September Book of the Month Sweepstakes:  The Artist’s Way

September Book of the Month Sweepstakes: The Artist’s Way

Finally getting back to blogging business as our family recovers from my niece’s out-of-state wedding and a week in northern Michigan visiting my mother-in-law and helping her tend her vineyard.  Yes, vineyard. She’s a seventy-something powerhouse retiree and widow who, four years ago, decided to launch a business growing grapes for the area’s burgeoning wine country.  No big deal, just 400-odd grapevines.

#retirementgoals #ageschmage  #detailsinaforthcomingpost

So, back to business.  If you’re here for the first time, you’re enjoying yourself, and you like the idea of winning a free book, then click on over to my sweepstakes page and enter for a chance to win The Artist’s Way; A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron.

I’ve had this book for more than a decade, and it’ll remain with me ’til the end, as it’s been added to my reference shelf.

If you’re anything like me, you may have…issues…with your chosen form of art/craft/creative expression. Whether it’s stage fright or a lack of confidence in your skill or a long-ago moment of shame, something stands in the way of creative nirvana.  This book contains a comprehensive collection of tools that will coach the reader through much of the internal sludge that mires us.  The cover reads, “A course in discovering and recovering your creative self,” and that’s exactly what it is.

So, if you decide to enter, good luck!  If you missed it, check out last month’s winner here.

See you soon 🙂


Book of the Month Sweepstakes Winner Announced

Book of the Month Sweepstakes Winner Announced

Congratulations to Terri of Whimsical Moon Farm, the winner of Ferre Me’s July 2017 Book of the Month Sweepstakes.

Dancing with Cinderella

Dancing with Cinderella

As I watched my niece get married over the weekend, I wondered how the span of her young life passed so quickly.

Are you a good mom?

Are you a good mom?

I’m not the first to say this, but before I had children I was the perfect mom.  Seriously, I knew exactly how to discipline to elicit the best possible behavior; I knew the best foods; I knew all about sleep schedules and how the baby would conform to life in my household.  I knew the best option between crib and co-sleeping, and I’d certainly never consider homeschooling my kids.  Those people are weird.  😉 Never mind that I was an only child whose babysitting resume consisted of, say, two jobs?  Basically, I’d never really been around children.  I just had lots of opinions about how to raise them.

Then my son was born.  Chaos ensued.

I wasn’t prepared for the Mommy Wars.  I didn’t realize so many moms would have opinions stronger than mine – moms with actual child-rearing experience.  I didn’t know I’d need to read peer-reviewed studies and craft talking points to defend my decision to wear my colicky baby like he was a favorite necklace.  I had no idea that jarred baby food vs. organic vs. homemade (people make their own baby food!?) was such a highly charged topic.

I found the whole thing exhausting.  My son, bless his cranky little heart, cried so much that I didn’t need a pack of moms to critique me; I was certain I’d already failed.  Did you know colic could last for eight months?  Me neither.

My son is almost 12 now – and still a bit cranky if I’m being honest – but when I came across the post below I remembered the full weight of Mommy Judgment – and I felt sweet relief as Merideth at Perfection Pending reminds us that whether our homes are spotless or “lived-in”, whether we work or stay home, whether our kids cry or giggle, we’re all doing the best we can.

I wish someone had said these words to me 11.5 years ago, back when I was sure I’d botched everything. I’m also sure that there are new moms out there now who, like me, were blindsided by the force of judgment, who are feeling a little lost and less-than.  If that’s you, dear Momma, click below.

I wish I could say with certainty that the Mommy Wars will end, but I can say that we have the ability to choose not to participate, to step out of the fray and instead support and lift each other up.

Because this parenting business is hard.

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